Ready For Sex?


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Ready For Sex?

Dear GZ Advisor,
I've been going out with this really cute guy for about three months. He asked me if I was ready yet. The last time we almost has sex. I chickened out. I didn't feel ready. It was really gross, too. I told him to stop. He did, but then a month later he asked me again. I really like him, but I don't feel ready to have sex yet. What should I do. Oh yeah, I'm 15. Thanx.
Signed Jewels

Dear Jewels,
You should keep saying no to sex until you feel 100% ready to say yes. Rather than thinking of not having sex as "chickening out," consider that you are taking care of yourself, and showing respect for yourself and your relationship with this boy. As you know, there are a lot of risks that go along with having sex (physical, such as pregnancy and STDs, and emotional).

Many people become sexually active before they're ready, and they end up feeling overwhelmed, confused, scared, or even sad.

Without considering all of the possible consequences you won't be making a healthy that's 100% right for you. Find a trusted adult to talk to before you find yourself in an intimate situation again. An adult who cares can help you to be clear about what's in your best interests.

Keep in mind that you haven't been dating this guy for very long (although it may seem like a long time to you). If he really cares for you he will want to be with you whether you have sex or not. Consider asking him to stop pressuring you. Suggest that if he wants to keep dating you, he needs to slow down. If he doesn't, you may need to end the relationship. It isn't easy to have this conversation with someone you really care about. But what's most important is that you stay true to yourself, and do what's best for you.
Take good care, GZ Advisor