1. One of your friends starts acting strangely. She seems to be treating you like she doesn't want to talk to you. She's suddenly always busy or says, "Sorry, I have to go." She never talks to you about anything personal anymore. It feels totally weird to you. You ask her if everything's okay and she says that everything's fine, no problems at all. It sure doesn't feel like it. You . . .

a. decide that you must be mistaken and try to ignore your feelings. You swallow your questions and play the game of acting like everything is just fine.
b. act like you believe her, but secretly figure she's keeping something from you.
c. confront her and demand that she tells you what is going on.

2. Two of your closest friends have started doing things together without you. Lots of things. They also stop talking or get kind of quiet when you walk up to them. They still include you a decent amount of the time, but things have definitely changed. You . . .

a. figure that maybe you're imagining things. After all they DO still go with you to the mall and the café.
b. feel pretty sure that something's up, but figure you better pretend everything's fine or they'll really get mad at you.
c. find other stuff to do with the rest of your time because you absolutely know they are playing some kind of mind game and you do NOT want to play.

3. Your friends have decided that the new girl is NON-desirable, as in they have NO desire to make friends with her. They actually seem to want to make her life miserable. They tell you that she is way stuck-up and that they want nothing to do with her. You see her around and she seems really nice to you, even kind of shy. You . . .

a. figure your friends must have some inside information that you don't know about. Why else would they say bad stuff about her, right?
b. go along with your friends by not making friends with the new girl, but you don't join in when they do anything directly rude or hurtful to her. You don't ask them not to either, though.
c. tell your friends that you think maybe the girl is just shy and suggest that you all give her a chance to prove that she's nice.

4. Your friend Amy said something to your other friend Phoebe that really upset her. Phoebe wants to punish Amy. She's having a sleepover that everyone in your group is invited to - you, Trish, Jen, and April. Amy is not invited. Amy is your closest friend. You know that Phoebe will be really upset if you don't come. You also know that the other girls will go along with Amy's punishment. Phoebe will probably only be mad at Amy for a week at the most. You . . .

a. go to the sleepover and figure Amy should learn not to make Phoebe upset. You're even a little upset at Amy for putting you in this awkward position.
b. find a way to get your mom to say you can't go. You make sure it's a reason Phoebe will buy, then you just cruise till Amy is back in Phoebe's good graces. You DO stay away from Amy, but you try to hang back from the rest of the group in a way that won't get you in trouble as well.
c. you invite Amy to sleep over at your house, then call and tell Phoebe you're sorry, but you can't make it to her sleepover.

5. Your friend, Mirra, wants you to apologize for being rude to her at the mall the other day. She tells your other two friends to tell you that she isn't interested in talking to you or hanging out with you until you say, "I 'm sorry." You have no clue what she's talking about. You don't remember anything you did that even comes close to being rude. You . . .

a. arrange to run into Mira and your other two friends at the café. You slide into the booth and tell Mira that you are so sorry that you hurt her feelings and that you hope she can forgive you. After all, one apology won't kill you and everything will go back to normal.
b. call Mira and tell her that you don't know what you could have possibly done that she interpreted as being rude, but you certainly didn't mean to be rude and that you're really sorry that she misunderstood your behavior. If that isn't enough to make her feel better, you say that you're sorry and that you're really upset that you did something dumb.
c. ignore Mira until you see her again - you refuse to let her use your other friends as go-betweens. When you do see Mira, you wait for her to tell you what's wrong or to snub you - then and only then - you confront her and say that you certainly didn't try to be rude. You ask her to tell you what you did to upset her. If she won't tell you what you did that was so terrible, you tell her that you can't apologize, because you don't know what you are apologizing for!

6. You show up at a party wearing your new pants - the ones that show off your stomach. You get teased about looking trashy by your own friends. They just won't let up. Finally you start to get teary and they all say, "Relax. We were just kidding." You . . .

a. feel like a dope for falling for their joke. Smile and try to have a good time. They DID say they were teasing, so you probably look just fine.
b. feel relieved that they were only teasing, but worry they secretly really meant it. You find yourself slouching all night to hide your stomach.
c. tell them that they are being way harsh whether they are kidding or not. Tell them that real friends shouldn't be mean, even when they are pretending.

7. There's a group of popular girls and you are one of them. Suddenly, they decide that they no longer want you in their group. They don't say anything, but they whisper and point at your from across the room and laugh quietly together. When your eyes meet one of them in class, they either roll their eyes or make them into little slits. You've asked them if something is wrong, but they all say, that everything's fine. You . . .

a. figure that you're just imagining things. You keep trying to be friendly without getting anyone upset.
b. feel totally confused. You KNOW that their words do not match their behaviors. Their bodies are speaking VERY loudly. You have no clue what to do.
c. decide that these girls are creeps. You wish that they liked you, but don't want to be friends with anyone who would act so mean. You hang out by yourself until you can find some new friends. Maybe popular isn't so important to you anymore.

8. Your mom tells you that you are beautiful just the way you are, but she always shows you the clothes you could buy if you wore a size smaller. She also makes faces when you reach for another cookie or a second helping of mashed potatoes. You . . .

a. believe her that she's totally happy with your body.
b. get that she's not happy, but if she can pretend, so can you. You ignore what she does, the best that you can, and just go by what she says.
c. confront her and demand to know how she really feels. If she denies her behavior, you point it out to her each time she does it. You tell her you just want to know what she REALLY thinks.

 

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