Ready to Compost

You, my dear, seem ready to throw yourself and the possibility of good friendships and relationships in the trash! STOP! Don't do that. Compost instead. Compost? Yes. Yes. Compost. You know, when you take disgusting food scraps and dead leaves and grass and mix them up in the backyard and they miraculously turn into beautiful fertile soil! What a miracle.

But here's the catch -- good composting takes time and heat. You need to heat things up for yourself. How? By digging deep and noticing that all of your thoughts seem to have a poor me type quality to them. Every time that you think that people are picking on you, or not caring for you enough, or not paying enough attention to you -- put yourself on the hot seat. Have a VERY serious talk with yourself. It should go something like this:

    Okay, now listen. You ARE not being picked on, or ignored, or taken for granted. You are simply worried that you are going to be tossed aside. Fear not. Take some time and BE the friend to others that you want THEM to be to you.

This is a good start; we have applied heat to the situation. Now we have to apply time. Time? Yes, time. It takes time to change your outlook and your attitude. Time to believe that people CAN recognize that you are VERY worth being friends with. Time for you to believe this yourself. So, give yourself time. Time to practice the new behavior you talked yourself into above. Time to believe in yourself and to believe in other people too.

By the way, if people REALLY ARE ignoring you, or picking on you, or taking you for granted, if it's really really true, forget everything I said, and get yourself some new friends!!!

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