Frazzled Freindtic

You are making yourself crazy, girl. You don't seem to have a clue what friendship is all about. You are either frantic that you are going to do something to upset your friends or frazzled because you think that your friends aren't quite nice enough to you. Sounds like friendship mostly gives you a sinking feeling. That's not the way it's supposed to be. Try this:

• Make a promise to yourself to only tell the truth to your friends. Don't be rude, just be honest. Try it for one week. That's right, for one whole week, be who you really are. Don't pretend, don't lie, and don't do anything that isn't really you. It will feel scary at first, but soon, you'll probably love being yourself. If the friends you have don't like what they see, maybe you need to find yourself some new friends. Friends that like and appreciate you for who you are, not who they'd like you to be.
• Sit down with your friends and tell each other honestly what you think are each other's best traits. Then take turns telling each other what you think are things that you want to improve about yourself. Ask each other for ways to handle situations that are hard for you. If someone is good at something that you have trouble with, ask her how she does it. And don't act as if you think that your friends are perfect. If someone says that they want to tell the truth more, don't insist that she doesn't lie. Help her instead to figure out ways to feel safe enough to tell the truth. Maybe you will all discover that friendship can be scary and confusing for other girls too.

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