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Kissing

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GZ Advisor,

Ok so i have this guy friend that really likes me,but he has a gf.(plus his gf and i dont get along!AT ALL!)and today he asked me if i would go to church tomorrow and after i would kiss him.i said i dont know.and i asked my bestest girlfriend ever what i sould do and she said i should kiss him.but the bad thing is the last time i listened to her advice i got dumped two days later in a text.see im in the seventh grade and has dated 3 ninth graders.an seventh grader.and an eighth grader.(my guy friend that likes me is in eightth grade)and i dont know if i sould listen to her.because i really like this guy(who is my ex)and i think he might like me agian.but if not i also like the guy that likes me and idk what to do.can u help me?  Rayann
 

Hey Rayann,

It's great to listen to our friends' advice, but ultimately, we have to do what we feel is right. The boy that asked you to go to church has a GF, so do you feel comfortable kissing him? It sounds like you don't if you're questioning it. If you really like your ex and think he might have feelings for you again, I say go for him. Don't you want to be with an available guy that you can trust and who isn't trying to play multiple girls? Guys are a big part of your life, it seems. I hope you also focus on other important things, like school, sports and spending time with family. Then, if a guy breaks your heart, you have so many other things to make your heart feel whole again. 

GZ Advisor

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GZ Advisor,

I just broke up with my last boyfriend and we dated for 7 and a half months, but we never kissed, so I’ve never had my 1st kiss. I really like this guy named Max. I’m not sure if he likes me, from my perspective he’s sending me mixed signals. How do I know how he really feels or if he even has feelings for me? Kasandra

Dear Kasandra,

I can sense the frustration you are feeling in your relationships and you are not alone. Guys’ behavior can be difficult to decipher, but if you learn to pay attention to signals and trust your gut, you will be headed on the right path.

You said you just recently broke up with your ex-boyfriend, which makes me think that maybe you have not spent enough time with Max. In this case, get to know him better and show him who you truly are. I know we sometimes get nervous around our crush, but be yourself and let your inner beauty shine. It’s difficult to be patient when you want an answer immediately, but give it some time and you will see if something develops. You can tell if he likes you by paying attention to his words and more importantly, his actions. How does he treat you? If he is kind, listens to you, wants to spend time with you and smiles at you, take those are great signs. If you are still unsure about his feelings, try taking a more forward approach and just ask him. It takes courage, but at least you will have your answer. Then you can move on together as a couple or maybe just as friends. If he continues to send mixed signals, then you have your answer. He is not ready to commit to you. Move on to someone who is making it clear they like you and only you.

 The fact that you haven’t had your first kiss seems to really be bothering you.  Don’t rush this special moment; wait until you find the right person at the right time. Best of luck to you and remember, “good things come to those who wait”.

GZ Advisor