Jealousy?

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Jealousy?

GZ Advisor,

Hey - i am dating this guy its been 4 months we have been dating and he is really over protective of me and he gets made at me for talking to other guys and some guys flirt with me and gets mad at me i had told him that i cant stop them flirting with me and he doesnt trust me and i am 13 years old and i dont know what to do?   Brookey

Hi Brookey,

Thanks for asking this question because I think alot of girls get confused between what's love and and what's jealousy. Sure, it might seem flattering or sweet that your BF wants you all to himself, but in reality, he is being controlling. It is perfectly okay for you to talk to guys and have guy friends. He has to accept that and trust you. The same applies to you. You need to be ok with him having friends that are girls. The key to a good relationship is respect. So, if you know it makes him feel bad when you're talking to guys, try to include him in the convo or wave to him. The most important thing to remember is that jealousy is not love. Best to you both.

GZ Advisor 

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GZ Advisor,

Okay so I've been dating my boyfriend for exactly one month and I really, really like him a lot. There's this girl who constantly is posting on his facebook wall and is obviously flirting with him. He flirts back a little too. I've talked to my boyfriend about it and he says to trust him. I do trust him. I just don't trust this girl! I talked to her about it too and she claims that they're just "best friends". They've know each other for a month. How can they be bff's? She is always posting pictures of them webcamming together and joking around with him, using millions of winky faces. I get so jealous. She told me that they're "just friends" but then she also told me he means everything to her. I don't wanna lose him to this girl. I just wish he would stop talking to her cause I'm afraid it's eventually going to ruin our relationship. Please help-  Kristina

Hey Kristina,

I totally feel for you! It's not easy to see some girl all over your guy..commenting on his pics, statuses etc. It seems you're placing all the blame on her, but remember it takes 2. Trust is something that takes time to build and can be broken in an instant. You've only been dating for a month, so if you really like him, give him a chance to prove his devotion to you. Acting jealous and possessive is a sure way to have him running into HER arms. Think about how you would feel if your BF was super jealous...It's not attractive. I think you're doing the right thing by voicing how you feel and telling him their friendship makes you uncomfortable. In the end, if he really respects you, he will tone it down with her. If he doesn't and it continues to drive you crazy, then its time to move on to someone who is willing to make you their #1. You deserve that.

  I have to say, though, acting jealous is a sure fire way to lose a guy.

GZ Advisor