Dear GZ Advisor,
I need some advice. I really like this guy, but I just found out that he smokes, and I really don't like that kind of stuff. I don't know what to do. Should I try to get him to stop? Any advice???????
Signed Sweet Chick
Dear Sweet Chick,
The truth is, you probably couldn't get him to stop smoking even if you tried. Smoking is a tough habit to break, and it has to be HIS decision. But you could be supportive if he decided to quit.
If you really like this guy and want to be in a relationship with him, start by being honest with him about how you feel about his smoking. (You don't like it, and you don't want to breathe secondhand smoke! Plus you're uncomfortable being around it.) If he respects you, he should at least agree not to smoke around you, and that may resolve the issue for you. But another concern may be whether he's right for you if he smokes at all. If being with nonsmokers is something you value, you may decide the relationship isn't worth it.
Be proud to be a nonsmoker.
You've chosen to avoid an unhealthy habit that's hard to break and that negatively affects your health. Good for you!
Take care, GZ Advisor