Dear GZ Advisor,
In April my maternal Grandma died. The last time we saw her was Thanksgiving add Christmas. My mom is really sad. what can I do to cheer her up? HELP ME!!!
Signed GZ Hannah
Dear GZ Hannah,
We're very sorry to hear of your loss. Losing a grandparent (and in your mom's case, her mother) is one of the greatest losses we ever experience. It's very difficult to watch a parent grieve, so it's not surprising that you want to cheer your mom up.
People experience grief and loss in many ways, and the healing process can take a long time
It's important for your mom to feel sad because that's part of this healing process.
One of the best things you can do for your mom is to talk with her and ask her if there's anything you can do to help. For example, it may be difficult for her to find the energy to grocery shop, or do household chores. Are there some jobs that you can take over for her for awhile?
Maybe some fresh air would help, and your suggestion of taking a walk together might be just the motivation she needs to do something physical. Probably the most important thing you can do for your mom is simply to let her know that you love her.
Even with your help, your mom may not cheer up as fast as you wish she would.
You can offer your love and support, but you can't make the hurt go away. Know that you aren't responsible for doing this for your mom.
Your mom is very fortunate to have a daughter who cares so much.
Warm wishes, the GZ Advisor