Dear GZ Advisor,
I know that this isn't a big problem, but to me it is. Almost all of my friends have boobs, specially my best friend who I'm usually around. She always tells me that she hates them, but she's just trying to make me feel better. Sometimes I really hate my body. My mom said how she didn't grow until her 20s. I just don't know what to do.
signed -- Boobless
Many girls and women in our culture feel uncomfortable with their bodies, in part due to unrealistic and unhealthy messages from the media about what we're supposed to look like.
The truth is that bodies come in all shapes and sizes, and they grow and develop at different rates. And breasts can be large, small, round, pointy, irregularly shaped, low, high, and just about everything in between.
Your body shape is largely determined by heredity (remember that your mom mentioned she didn't develop until she was in her 20s). Exercise and nutrition are important, too, though these things won't determine your basic structure.
Keep in mind that during puberty your body is going through many changes, so it's perfectly normal to feel somewhat insecure. In other words, you're in good company when you say you sometimes hate your body! Everyone around you is experiencing a lot of the same feelings.
This is a great time to focus on things that are truly important so that you can feel more positive about yourself, and life in general.
Try to focus on who you are as a person -- inside and out. You can do this by being a trustworthy friend and by paying attention to other character traits that matter to you.
Take good care of yourself by eating healthy foods, staying active, and staying away from negative things such as smoking, drinking, or using drugs. Be your own best friend. When you catch yourself thinking negative thoughts about your body, replace them with positive ones. Push the negative thoughts out the window and into the trash where they belong.
And give yourself a big present -- practice loving yourself just the way you are. You ARE worth it!
Check out this Inside Out article - Real Boobs