Getting Back Together

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Getting Back Together

Dear GZ Advisor,
This is the situation. I was going out with this guy and we broke up. Two weeks later he calls me again and wants to get back together, except that I don't care for him in that way anymore. I don't have the heart to tell him so. What should I do. Please help.

Signed, Confused

Dear Confused,
It's never easy to tell someone that you don't care for him in the same way he cares for you. And you may think that you don't have the heart to tell him so. But the truth is, if you have a heart, you will tell him honestly how you feel, and that you don't want to go out with him. Period. Be calm, and keep it short so you aren't tempted to give in.

Many people think that they're saving someone's feelings by holding back the truth. But the truth is never as painful as being led to believe that someone cares for you when she (or he) really doesn't. By being straightforward, you're showing respect for him AND for yourself.

Take care, and good luck!
GZ Advisor