Boys as Friends vs Boyfriends


Have a question about your life? About your family, friends, school? Ask other girls. You never know, or you can ask GZ Advisor. Contact me at If your question is urgent please discuss with a parent, school counselor or other trusted adult. You can also visit our Resources page

Boys as Friends vs Boyfriends

GZ Advisor,

One of my best friends seems to be avoiding me when i walk up he walks away or if i talk to him he doesn't say very much then leaves. We have been friends for 3 years now and i don't want to lose him as a friend, and since last year i have liked him as more than a friend. I don't know why he all the sudden stopped talking to me but it is freaking me out he was one of my few friends that actually kinda understood me and i don't want to lose him even if it means we wont be more then friends but i don't know what to do he won’t talk to me. Katie

Dear Katie,

I'm sorry you are going through this. It's painful to feel distant from a friend and not know where things went wrong. I would suggest being upfront with him. Say, "Obviously, something is bothering you. You have been avoiding me. Can we please talk about this?". Since he has been brushing you off, another option is to write him an email or note expressing your concerns. If he continues to avoid you, you have to give him his space. He may have a hard time communicating to you what he is really thinking, but his actions are loud and clear. During this difficult time, turn to your other friends for support. Get active doing fun things to get your mind off him. Also, I think you should try talking to a trusted relative or your school counselor, since you said you feel misunderstood. Opening up to others will help them get to know the real you.

You never know what the future has in store for you. "When one door closes, another opens."

GZ Advisor