BF Changing


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BF Changing

Dear GZ Advisor,
I have a problem. My best-friend (or so I thought) doesn't ever pay ANY attention to me anymore. All she ever does is go over to boys' houses and flirt. I wouldn't be so upset, except for the fact that we've been friends since k-garden. What should I do?
Signed,  Emily

Dear Emily,
During the preteen and teen years people change a lot and that means your relationships will go through lots of changes as well. This can be very troubling and frustrating at times, but it's a normal part of growing up.

I suggest you talk with your friend. Explain how you're feeling and why. Be willing to listen to what she has to say as well. Find out if you still share some interests, and if she still values your friendship. If she wants to continue being friends, make plans to get together. But remember that you may not be able to spend as much time together as you did in the past.

It's likely that your friendship will feel different (because you are both changing and growing in different ways).

If you discover that you don't have much in common anymore it may be time to acknowledge that the friendship is over for now. You can part on good terms by remembering the good times you shared. You may feel sad for a while, so it will be really important for you to keep busy and to find new friendships that you can count on.

We wish you the best,
GZ Advisor